The last time that I spoke with Aunt Marian on the phone she & I discussed my dad having a son with a woman by the name of Betty Loter. She said she didn't know anything about it. She was happy for me & Bobby that finding Bob Loter gave us some joy in our lives. She told me that Aunt Dorothy was closest to my mom because they were the oldest and always had a close relationship. I told her that it had been said that my dad cheated on my mom and she said she never heard anything like that about my dad. She told me not to believe everything I hear. The one thing I'll never forget is her telling me that Sadie reminded her of me when I was a little girl. Then to never have met Sadie and then meet her for the first time at their funeral's was an absolute nightmare. I called Aunt Marian 1 time before that last conversation with her and she was sick that day when she answered her phone. But, as soon as she knew it was me calling she wanted to talk to me regardless how she was feeling. We also talked about the rift between me and Aunt Bonnie. She e-mailed me from a motel while her & Uncle Wendell were on vacation and told me to put the past in the past and I took her advice and made amends with Aunt Bonnie. We've managed to become friends again which I owe to the memory of Aunt Marian. I love Aunt Bonnie very much and it was great spending Thanksgiving last yeat with her and her family. We enjoyed going to see Aunt Carole & Uncle Jon while we were there too. I enjoyed looking at Aunt Carole's picture's of Grandma M. especially. But, they were all great photo's. It was AWESOME to see Bonnie's kid's and their family's while John & I were there. Bonnie & John were very hospitable and it was a riot playing "HANDS & FEET" with them. Susan's son Brett is an exceptionally nice guy. John & I really enjoyed talking with him. All of Bonnie & John's grandkid's are as sweet as they can be. I look forward to many more get together's with all of them. I love them all alot! xoxo P.S. My Aunt Rose told me that when my dad met my mom it was love at first sight. That my mom had told her Betty was pregnant and she thought it was my dad's. Rose told me that my dad didn't pay child support. That he married my mom. The day I found Bob Loter after having made contact with his mother Betty Loter she told her that my dad didn't want anything to do with her after he met my mom. After my dad married my mom, Betty married somebody else and Bob was raised by her parents and was lead to believe that they were his parents. When he was in his early 20's his step-father told him who his real dad was. My dad married Rosemary Hull shortly after mom died and the day be was killed in a car wreck on his way home from work he had told her that he had something he wanted to tell her and the whole family and never did get the chance. There's no doubt in my mind that dad was going to tell everybody about his son "Bob Loter". He loved all of his kid's alot. He was only 30 years old when he was killed. If my dad would have cared anything for Betty Loter he wouldn't have married Rosemary. She went about her life and dad went about his with marrying my mom and having me & Bobby. Dad was super protective of all his kid's. He wouldn't have left us for anything in this world had he not been killed and taken from us. He and my mom both loved kid's and would have liked to have had another child but couldn't because of mom getting cancer. Dad also adored Shirley and would have thought the world of Sharon too but he was killed when Shirley was about 1 1/2 and Sharon was born 1 day after his funeral. My dad may not have been perfect but he dearly loved my mom and all of his kid's. I don't believe that he was ever un-faithful to my mother. What- ever went on between my parents, or Sonny & Rose was their business. Like Aunt Marian said "WE ALL NEED TO PUT THE PAST BEHIND US". I for one don't have time to re-live the past. With losing Marian & Sadie it goes to show how short and precious life is and I for one want to live out the rest of my life being happy and living for what's good in my life today. None of us can change the past, so why dwell on it? We all need to live our life as if this is our last day on earth to be with our loved one's. I love all of my mom & dad's family with all of my heart! xoxo